Monday, December 12, 2011

What's love got to do with anything?

Tina Turner famously sang, "What's love but a second-hand emotion?" She may have deprecated love's essential claim on life's choices, but I beg to differ. Love, though perhaps not the romantic notion of love we erroneously infer from the word, has everything to do with how we live, what we do, and why we choose.

Emotion, the magnetic attraction or repulsion we feel that draws us toward or away from more of the same sensation, is never second-hand. Emotions are invariably our own internal response to a triggering stimulus, but more than just a feeling, emotions are energetic motivation: they pull us toward an experience or push us away. When we are attracted, we "love" and yearn for more.

That attraction that pulls us into connection with something bigger than we were before is always initiated within. Others may influence how our response is expressed and perhaps even, over time, persuade us to modify our initial reactive interpretation, but no one else can force unwilling inner acceptance. Outwardly we may comply, but internally, we hold our own counsel; conflict of heart and mind become the source of our tensions, dissatisfactions, self-sabotage, and (ultimately) desire for change.

When we are attracted, though, we are drawn toward whatever we perceive as the source of the magnetic pull, regardless of the feedback. We indeed "love" and want to be near/ with/ part of that pulling connection. This yearning for connective wholeness forms our entire raison d'ĂȘtre, and love drives us eternally toward our most consuming desire.
 
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1 comment:

Bill Flower said...

You are SOOOOOOOO right with this commentary. As hard as it may be to find this most locked up emotion of love it must be realeased from within. I speak from experience that when it is set free the feeling is overwhelming and wonderful. Good stuff again Kae